Forgiveness is a gift to oneself.
Don’t I rather feel I do someone else a favor by forgiving?
Part of me, does not agree with forgiveness. Letting go of what seems right to me.
I was treated badly, someone was mean, I want to pay back.
I want the other to feel as bad as I do. He/ she should feel my pain.
I forget that this is all in my head and the other does not get it, and when I communicate it, I have no influence on whether the other really feels what I feel or not.
The pain, the violation, the frustration.
And even if the other feels it, it does not make me feel better.
I feel only better, by allowing to feel all there is. Pain. Anger. Frustration. Helplessness. Rejection. I choose to feel whatever it feels like and put my arms around myself, like around a child that fell and got hurt. Tender and kind.
Forgiveness is about letting go, letting go of relentlessness, letting go of being right, letting go of achieving, letting go of unkindness.
Forgiveness requires strength.
To nourish and cherish grudge does not require any effort. To jump over my own shadow and to forgive is an act of the will. This requires strength and courage.
Forgiveness is a gift to oneself and to our society.
The more we heal through life, the more love and peace we bring to the world.
Allow what is. Feel inside yourself what longs to be felt.
Be good to yourself.